Whoever said that writing about your suffering makes it better had no clue. Only two things make it better.
The first thing is wisdom. Writing can be a clarifying process, a process of fermenting wisdom, for some, and in that sense, one can even argue that writing can make your suffering better. But it does so only in certain situations, and some of the times. Claiming that writing makes it better as though it were an authoritative fact is misplaced, especially when many people, when they write, use their writing to validate their self-pity, when it is precisely the turning away from self-pity that makes suffering better. And wisdom, in this context, must be distinguished from the kind that's associated with pursuing and discovering truth. The import of this wisdom is to free yoursel from self-pity, even when doing so consists of departing from facts, as long as you can bring yourself to believe the narrative you need to reinforce to yourself in order to feel good.
So, what is the second thing? The second thing is time. In fact, I lied. I ditched truth again. Time is not the second thing, it is the only thing. The first thing is only there to buy you time, so that time has a chance to heal you.
